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I feel is a disease, so it’s time we started to treat this epidemic sys-temically . To treat and cure adultery the brain chemicals must be altered not only by therapeutic sessions with me, but chemically as well (for most of my patients this is achieved without medication). Not only does the adultery stop , they start to “feel” again and fall

back in love with their partner and life in general.

My theory of adultery as a disease is very different from the mainstream. 98% of my couples who commit adultery stay together. I believe that adultery is an inherited emotional and biochemical pattern of emptiness passed down from generation to generation, rather than a desire to be unfaithful . It is also a “biochemical” craving for connection that needs to be addressed; that a self medicating “high” will make it impossible to stop cheating and “feel” love for your partner . This “disease” can be cured by balancing the “biological craving for connection” which is demonstrated by the patients in my practice. Why do fools fall in lust? Why are we slaves to that crazy feeling of falling in love? Why do we seek infatuation at any cost instead of real love? See why affairs, even casual flirting, especially cyber sex can be dangerous to your relationship. Learn how to resist temptation and to hold that line! You will be shocked to learn how to prolong lust’s dreamy feelings— have an affair with your own partner! Observe through case studies how and why we fill our emptiness with lovers, booze, or drugs to create the same chemicals we make when we’re truly happy or in love . Learn how to “self-medicate” instead, with loving behaviors that will keep your heart and your brain — and your partner ’s — saturated with the

“love cocktail.” So now, more than ever, I believe THAT ADULTERY IS A VERY FORGIVABLE SIN.

I don’t condone it, under any circumstances—how could I, when I’ve seen how far its damage can spread? But I do believe it is often the result of an inherited behavior pattern, not a free choice; the adul-terer is trying desperately to fill emotional needs that went unmet by his own parents.

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