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Seven Signs That You Are Losing Yourself in a Relationship
She was a good pianist, and she believed that all women should be in-
dependent. It was during the time of fascism in Italy, and everyone was
required to contribute to the state.
My parents married in 1942 in the middle of the war. Post-war, there
were four political parties: Democratic, Communist, Fascist and Re-
publican. They became Democrats. My mother became involved in the
community in every way she could. She wanted to become a politician
like my father, who converted to Democracy after the war. He could not
lose the spotlight, so my mother took second place. She campaigned for
my father and got the necessary votes for the Democratic party and for
her husband.
My mother got involved in the Rights for Women’s movement and be-
came the president of The Center For Feminine Rights in the Puglia
region, which is the equivalent of a province in Canada or a state in the
U.S. It did not last long, because my father did not like the attention
she was getting and asked her to leave the position. Ironically, I recall
listening to her rehearse her speeches and hearing all the nice things she
was saying along with her recommendations about women’s roles in the
family and with children, which were contrary to what she was doing at
home. Even as a child, I noticed the contradictions.
By living a privileged life, traveling with her father every summer to
various vacation places in Italy and residing in a good boarding school,
my mother’s aspirations were not matched by what life had reserved
for her. She wanted to marry someone who lived in a big city, who was
a professional, and who would allow her to thrive in modern and open
environments like the ones she witnessed in her travels and learned
about from her girlfriends at the boarding school. Instead, she married
a very handsome man who brought her to a little town in the south of